Today marks the end of our study term in the university. The past months, everybody has been exceptionally sentimental, taking more photos than usual with friends and lecturers, going for outings more avidly even when we're in the midst of mid term and assignments. There was just this sudden change of vibe in the air and in everybody. Looking at the whole scene from afar, it really made me think, "What made them behave like that?", "Why the sudden change?", " Is it regret, denial or something else that fueled these actions?" It really was a different sight and I am intrigued to understand it.
I was never one who belongs to one pack and stay comfy in there. I definitely wished that I have had a closer relationship with my coursemates from the beginning but as time passes, it was a decision I consciously make and accountable for. That I am okay alone, that it is not bizarre to have your own plans and not stick to the same lunch buddies every single day. Of course, there are downsides of being a lone ranger like missing out on the latest tips on exams and stuffs. But it's okay, I just have to work a little harder (not very smart but yea). Five years ago, the naive me was disturbed with this harsh reality that being different or "unique" is going to make one an ostracised, miserable, lonely child but evidently, I grew out of it. I decided to prioritise other things and mingle with a different set of friends too in the process. Looking back, there's no regret but I could have managed it better. By 'it', I meant my relationship with people.
This is a letter to my coursemates of four/five years,
It is a fact that I like all of you dearly. I guess I have learned to accept you and people in general for who you are and always see the good side of things. I learned so much from just observing how you have changed over the years. What I am most amazed by is the level of leadership within our batch. There were just so much going on because people are speaking up, initiating ideas and plans, taking the lead to translate ideas into actions and as a result, good times and fond memories are created. It is such a joy to see really. One thing that never changed is your overflowing of kindness. I can confidently say that the pharmacy school community is the kindest and most selfless one in the entire university that I have come across with. I am thankful for the times that you have randomly asked me to join you for lunch or trips to Janda Baik or Cameron Highlands. Also the efforts to keep me awake during lectures. Then there are a few who constantly engage everyone by making jokes, asking random questions or simply standing next to me while waiting to enter the lecture theater so I won't feel left out. It's all these little quirks and acts of care and love that enabled us to be vulnerable and more connected with each other.
At this point, I think everyone sort of feel the same mixed feelings; excited to sit for our final examination in university, motivated to do our best this last couple of months, worried about our job posting and career path, clueless of what our options are, doubtful of our capabilities compared to the market's expectations, anxious of leaving this worry-free student life bubble and perhaps very dreadful to step out into the crude working life. Whatever it is that you may be feeling, it is okay. As crucial as all these decisions may seem, slow down, take time and reflect. We have just spent five years of our lives in university. That's a really long time. Long enough to cause anyone to feel so comfortable and reluctant to move on to something new. So just shut your mind from all external voices and listen to your own voice for a moment.
We often come across articles about doing the job that makes you happy so you would never have to work a single day of your life. However, when that source of happiness is no longer there, does that mean that there's no point going on doing that job? Thus, instead of thinking of what makes you happy because I'm sure there are a lot of things that make us happy or neutral, think about what you are willing to SUFFER for. By doing this, you would figure out what you are truly determined to pursue. The fact is that we are all humans, we try our best to avoid pain and suffering. Because of this, we always do ourselves injustice by accepting what we don't deserve. How many of us can relate to this, "I don't mind doing this, It's not my first choice/I didn't know what to do but this is fine too." We will become more complacent if we don't start taking charge of our lives.
I love you all and I truly wish the best in everything that you choose to do. Most importantly, choose your battles wisely and may you arise better versions of yourself every day!
Always keeping you in prayers,
Canny
P.S. I'm not a sadist/masochist. LOL.
Have a read. :)
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/mark-manson/the-most-important-question_b_4269161.html
